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A Parent's Plea
What began as a warm summer day, much like any other, soon became one I will never forget. As I sat quietly on our patio filling out some tedious paperwork, my infant laid sleeping on my lap. My husband and our boys were in the pool nearby, splashing around. Everything was peacefully perfect.
The next few moments would prove to be anything but... I suddenly heard one of the boys shouting something inaudible. Almost instantly, I saw my husband jumping over the side of the pool with my lifeless 3 year old son in his arms. He retrieved him from the bottom of the pool. I’ll never forget the horrible sound of his voice as he repeatedly yelled in horror. Time stood still. I felt as if I would die.
In the moments that followed, ones that felt more like a slow motion lifetime, my husband performed CPR, I called 911, good-willed neighbors flocked to the fence, and thank God my son began breathing again. Though it was touch and go for a while, and we had to spend the night at Children’s Hospital, my beautiful child survived.
Somehow, someway, in spite of how well we watch after our children, a near tragedy still occurred.
Apparently, my husband turned for a moment to check the chlorine level. In just that moment, my 3 year old forgot that he took his arm floaties off, and he jumped into the water. It was my 5 year old, that noticed and yelled for help.
Self-Compassion – Loving Yourself !
Did you know that some people barrage their psyches with 400+ negative statements per day—yet counter that with only a dozen in the positive column?
Silencing Negative Self-Talk
While a little bit of self-criticism might be a good thing--because we can use it as a reality check, or a barometer to become right with ourselves, excessive self-criticism is a destroyer of our self-esteem and our self-confidence. Psychologists tell us that self-trash talk is associated with higher stress levels and even depression. Yet people seem to dismiss its impact. What about you? How do you talk to yourself?
Would you talk to your friend the way you talk to yourself?
Self-destructive Talk…or Self-Compassion?
Would you tell your true friend the sort of things you’ll readily tell yourself? Have you listened to the berating words you say to yourself? (Why not take a moment and list down the critical words you’ve shared with yourself in just the past 24 hours? Carve out some time for a reality check.)
When we’re beating ourselves up, even a small blunder can be inflated into a huge thundercloud that keeps reverberating until we’re ready to move on. What if you analyzed your negative self-talk for the “why” that is behind it, and then imagined what your friend would say to you in that moment? A good measurement to follow: “If you wouldn’t say it to your friend, don’t say it to yourself.” Remember, that catching yourself (before you say self-destructive words) is where you want to be----get on the offense!
The book, The Four Agreements, by Miguel Ruiz notes one of the four agreements, as “Be impeccable with your word.” This is described as not only important to the words you say to others, yet equally to the words you say to yourself. Being impeccable with your word means speaking with integrity, saying only what you mean, and avoiding using words to speak against yourself (and others); rather to use the power of your word in the direction of truth and love. That’s how self-compassion rises.
Self-compassion is extending compassion to one's self in instances of perceived inadequacy, failure, or general suffering.
There are lots of ways to stifle that inner critic—beginning with becoming aware
of your in-the-moment situational self-talk.
Included are… reframing the specific situation into a larger context, using the power of possibility-thinking, and one that I especially like, is to give that inner a critic a name….so that you can converse with it: “Okay, ‘Ms. Cruel’….that’s enough…I’m not listening to anything you say, today.”
For more on this subject, including a host of ways to muzzle your inner critic, and to lift up self-kindness and self-compassion, please check this out:
Claire Knowles is a 2-time Amazon best-selling author, in-demand Speaker and Business Leadership Consultant, helping Leaders (especially women leaders) and their Teams become the most effective they can be at accomplishing their goals (together). www.ClaireEKnowles.com 716-622-7753
Medical Resources: Understanding Leukemia
Leukemia is a type of cancer that affects the blood and bone marrow. It manifests itself when the blood begins producing too many white blood cells. Leukemia occurs in both adults and children. The leukemia survival rate is around fifty percent, but it can be a difficult disease to treat. Many people live with leukemia for several years while trying to fight it. There are four basic types of leukemia, but there are subcategories within those types. Doctors may use a variety of methods to treat leukemia.
Living with Leukemia
Many people live with chronic leukemia for several years. There are drugs that help to fight the disease and slow its progress. There are many support groups for people with leukemia, and for their family members. When you have been diagnosed you need to work out a treatment plan with your doctor and follow it. You do have the opportunity to continue living a fairly normal life, especially if the leukemia responds well to the drugs.
- Interview with Susan: an ex-leukemia patient – The story of a patient living with leukemia.
- Children with Leukemia Are Living Longer Lives: An article about how the survival rate for childhood cancer patients has improved.
- 25 Practical Tips for Patients: Tips to help patients who are currently living with cancer.
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