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I am Hope
Hope circles around, spinning its warmth and kindness, telling you to hold on tight and never give up
Sometimes there are choices; the road straight ahead or the one that may have a challenging curve to it taking you to a different place
Hope can give you inspiration and motivation to hold on to your dreams and make them a reality.
Sometimes I give up too soon on some of the things I really want to accomplish and the next time I do something new, I remind myself of this so that my staying power is longer. You need stick-to-it-ness it in order to accomplish your goals in life.
Teaching yourself how to be more hopeful
Hope is a learning process that takes time to acquire. Hopeful moments, minutes, hours and then hopeful days! Before you know it, you are hopeful about everything in life, and that can help you to be more resilient and happier about your progress toward your goals in life, and your new found ability to help others gather their hopeful moments.
This new found strength you have acquired in hopeful living can help you and others too.
You can bring hope to a dismal moment in someone’s life by giving a needed hug or a pat on the back to someone in need along with honoring yourself and your accomplishment in life because you had the staying power of hopefulness.
People begin to seek you out for your hopeful signs that help them to change themselves to more abundant life that is full of love and harmony.
Success in life
Hopefulness and a positive attitude can add to your chances of success.
I practice hopeful moments all day long, and I enlist others to do the same by stopping them from continuing down a path of gloom and doom. I can feel the energy around someone who is positive and it is good, but the energy around negative people keeps me at a distance. Those negative vibrations surrounding negatively spirited people can roll onto you.
What is hope?
Hope is not just about attitude or being persistent, hope is about that deep feeling inside where your sprit brings you moments of awe.
You have to live the dream; really feeling hope inside your spirit; hanging on to it no matter what happens.
Remember that you have choice in every moment to change your attitude, mood and emotion to a more positive moment in time that is filled with hope, wonder and love.
PAY ATTENTION TO "THAT LOOK"!
While visiting with a dear friend the other day, I couldn't help but notice the fresh new dent on their kitchen wall that was staring me in the face. Naturally, I asked her," What happened?" I was expecting her to tell me a crazy story involving one of the kids and a ball, or toy. I mean...duhhh, that's what kids do when they're young, "destroy our houses" right? However, her response was far from what I expected. She clammed up a bit getting a different look about her face, as though she were off someplace else, even a tinge resentful. "Oh, it's nothing!"she said. She went on to dismiss it as her husband was running around, and body-checked it. "How about I make you a nice strong cup of coffee?", she proposed quickly. She almost had me with the coffee. B-u-t, there was something that caused me to hesitate. It was "THAT LOOK"!
Learning the Love of “Old Things”
This is a little off-topic, but not entirely so I hope you won’t mind a little straying off the path of vintage fashion.
As well as owning a vintage fashion boutique online, I also sell antiques. Many people ask me why I got into this business and the only excuse I have is that it’s Grandma’s fault. I grew up spending more time at my grandparents’ house than at our own house because my mother <gasp!> worked, which was highly unusual at the time. She was in a management position in H.R. back in the 60s, also highly unusual. But I digress ….
Annie Oakley- Great American Women 1860-1926
"Little Sure Shot", Annie Oakley was born into an impoverished family in rural Ohio. As a child, Oakley hunted game and sold it to Cincinnati restaurants. She was so successful that she was able to pay off the mortgage on her family's house. At the age of fifteen, Oakley defeated well-known marksman Frank But5ler in a shooting contest. The two fell in love and were married the next year. For much of their fifty-year marriage, thew couple toured the United States and Europe giving shooting exhibitions. SOakley became the star attraction of Buffalo Bill's Wild West Show, for whcih she performed for seventeen years.
Oakley gained worldwide fame by executing feats such as shooting the ash from a cigarette in someone's mouth- a trick she performed on Kaiser Wilhelm II - and shooting an apple from the head of her dog, Dave.
Known for her generosity, Oakley dedicated a great portion of her earnings to helping orphans and windows, as well as financially assisting young women who could not afford an education.
I’m Awesome… When’s the last time you told yourself that?
A recent study was done about girls (by Always Company) about young girls’ “I Can” esteem issues before puberty and after puberty. The study was intriguing, as young girls before puberty would run like they could run; or throw a ball like they could throw a ball….just like anyone else (boy or girl) …unlimited….because they could!…..no such thing as, “throw like a girl”, or “run like a girl”….those behavioral differences don’t happen until after puberty! So what’s the scoop? What is the limiting thought process that is ingrained at puberty? And by whom? What messages are being fed to young girls’ subconscious minds? What subconscious messages are you carrying with you?
One of the reasons cited (and there are several) is that mothers/older sisters/aunts and grandmothers need to be thinking about the “limitations” we may inadvertently project on our daughters. Puberty is natural and should be celebrated; and as our womanhood increases, so does our Awesomeness. We can run because we can run. We can throw because we can throw….(no more terms that somehow differentiate that like a boy or like a girl must be valued differently!) Instead, let’s work on building that self confidence: Repeat after me: I’m Awesome…yes, I am.
I was awesome when I was 8 and at 14; and I’m awesome yet today!
A few months ago I asked (in my feature column with WNYWomen.com) “Is Your Inner Confidence Showing?” I shared some ways to carry yourself with confidence—Appear Confident, Think Confidently, and Practice Confidence.
Let’s now look much closer at you…yes, YOU! At YOU and at YOUR AWESOMENESS! Self-confidence starts with “what we tell ourselves”—consciously and in our subconscious messaging. What is your self-talk about? Is it lifting you up? Or is it pushing you down? We can have a huge, deliberate impact on this! So, start being more self-aware of your goodness, your accomplishments, and the many ways the wonderful you is showing up in the world. Start to reprogram….yes, to change the inner tape-recordings, the inner talk that is inhibiting you from showing your very best YOU! You are about to have a critical conversation with your inner-self-confidence maker!
How does this work? It works because if we change our self-talk, the old messages that run deep in our sub-conscious mind and that often inhibit our being the best we can be, are changed too. The sub-conscious holds old tapes, old messaging; yet it is reprogrammable--the old tapes can be replaced by new ones! It takes a dose of repetition, however, to get the subconscious mind to let go of the old and grasp the new. Sometimes when the old tape surfaces, we just have to stop---stop and say, “No…that’s not how it is; I’m really awesome; and I can do this; just watch this confident me!” We have to keep reminding the subconscious that it is not in charge!
Claire Knowles, is a two-time Best-Selling Author, acclaimed Speaker and Consultant for Leaders and their teams who want to move forward, achieve extraordinary results and overcome the challenges that have been preventing them from being the best that they can be (together)! 716-622-7753