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YOUR EVERY-DAY CHOICES…(Strung together)… MAKE UP YOUR LIFE…
Decisions….Decisions…Choices...Choices! We make a lot of decisions every day; some are easy, transactional choices, like what to wear, or what to eat. Those type of choices and decisions we make quite readily. There are also transformational choices—the critical, pivotal points in our lives when what we decide can have lasting impact. These are the decisions that take much introspection and courage. The transformational choices are wise decisions that can change the direction of your life—putting your life on a path to success…and more importantly, significance.
Nido R. Qubein wrote “Success & Significance.” And his remarks are poignant. “The bottom line is this: What you choose is what you get. Five years from today, you will be exactly the same person you are today except for the choices you make beginning right now.”
So why not make wise choices that move your life forward—rather than choices that you will likely regret. The impact of our decisions can metaphorically be likened to a stone thrown into a smooth pond. How many rings reverberate from that stone? One or two? Or are there three or four or six or seven or even more? The stone has a weight to it, and carries power thrust as the stone hits the water. What do you want the impact to be of your decisions on you life? Have you thought about the consequences of your decisions?
We want to make the right decisions for our lives. And sometimes we doubt. Sometimes we just aren’t ready to make a decision—we have to ponder it for a while. Mother’s wisdom to “sleep on it over-night and it will look clearer in the morning” is sage advice. Sometimes, for our intuitive insights to fully process, we need a little more time. Some people seek guidance outside themselves for answers….trusted loved ones, friends, colleagues, clergy, experienced advisors, and healers. Ultimately though, the decision is ours to make. Because our entire lives are made up of decisions—some life-altering—it makes good sense to think about the decisions and choices we make, or that we need to make. How do you make your decisions? What is the deep process you use when faced with a dilemma or are holding a wariness over which choice is the best one to move forward? What pivotal decisions have you made that impacted your future (either positively or negatively)? And what’s that next decision to be made—the one that has your name on it? (See Lights On!...Illuminations to Move Your Life Forward….the Book!)
Claire Knowles is a 2-time Amazon best-selling author, in-demand Speaker and Business Leadership Consultant, helping Leaders (especially women leaders) and their Teams become the most effective they can be at accomplishing their goals (together). www.ClaireEKnowles.com
Tiger lilies for mom
I put some flowers on your grave today for your birthday. You always had a beautiful sunny day for your birthday, and today is no exception. It is going to be one of the hottest days of the summer this year, and you enjoyed sunshiny, hot days.
When I breathe in the color orange it energizes my soul
I chose tiger lilies from my garden; 3 of them for each of your children.
Tiger lilies are so strong they grow like weeds. And you too were stronger than anyone I have ever met. You met challenges on a daily basis gracefully. You honored every breath that you took in life; explaining to me that you will never die. And you are here now to guide me in writing about you and your wonder.
According too many theories on color, the color orange is the color of love and happiness. I believe that is why I chose these beautiful flowers for you. You brought love and happiness to my childhood, and helped me through many struggles in my life without telling me what to do. You stood by all of your children no matter what the circumstances.
I only hope that I am treasured by my children as much as you are by your family. No unkind words were ever spoken of you. You were like your name; an angel in disguise. And now you have your wings and can send your energy to everyone who misses you.
Missing you is like a deep hole in my soul. There is a spot down there that is beginning to fill with the energy you send me to keep writing about you and your life. You want everyone to know that you are still here and speak to us in different ways; it may be in the soft breezes that circle around dropping scents of purple, soft lilacs, or just the scattering of leaves in front of me as l walk along my path. And I know it is you, and as I breathe in the warm, fresh air, I think of you every moment of the day.
Love and happiness theories on Color: Wills, P. (1993). Colour Therapy: The Use of Color for Healing and Health. Element Publishing. Rockport, MA.
FOR THE THRILL OF IT
You know that "like it, love it , got to have it" excitement that we see in the eyes of teens, and young people everywhere? What if we could capture that? Think about it..."sports car $35,000, getaway vacation $6,000, euphoria PRICELESS". Euphoria is defined as a feeling, or state of intense excitement and happiness. It is that special something that puts a bounce in our step, a twinkle in our eye, that fire inside of us that propels us.
When we are excited, in such a euphoric state, chemicals called endorphins are released into our body. These endorphins can give us the sensation that some have often referred to as "runner's high". You may have experienced it after a vigorous workout. Or, perhaps for the thrill of it, you went on a roller coaster ride, and "woahhh ...what a feeling!"
I recently visited a theme park with my family, and I decided to go for it, joining my children on several of the exhilarating rides. This was something I hadn't done in years. For some reason, once I had children I felt more vulnerable, and therefore stopped doing things that might be considered a risk. This included, going for hikes down to the Niagara Gorge, which was something I always loved & found invigorating. Now there I was, taking a leap out onto these intoxicating rides. I LOVED IT!!!
It really caused me to ponder a few things. First of all, I thought to myself, "why the heck did I wait so long?" Not only did it feel amazing to let go, and have some real fun for a night, but I wanted more. I began to contemplate how a good majority of people who enjoy rides, and/or thriller movies, end up no longer entertaining either of them later in life. I also wondered, if giving in to fears, & feelings of being vulnerable simply because we become parents, could possibly act as an aging force in our lives? And yet, the contrary could also prove true...I might then surmise, that if adults, and parents go back to doing more of the things they once loved to do, such as going on rides, it would be truly euphoric!
Imagine this if you will, if more parents, and adults did things just for the thrill of it. The euphoric feelings and endorphins being produced would more than likely promote better health. A little further still, consider this thought, "if we take the plunge out into the unknown today, we'll get through every mundane tomorrow, smiling & laughing all the way."
THE CAR COACH REPORTS: July 25, 2014 AND CORRUPTION FOR ALL EDITION - Red Light Cameras
red light camera sign - photo enforced
I don’t like red light cameras. They are an invasion of privacy that the government has forced on its citizens. After reading this,
http://www.autoblog.com/2014/07/23/chicago-red-light-camera-investigation-report/, I like them even less.
I will forgo the jokes about crime and the mob and Chicago. But this red light camera case was exposed when the Chicago Tribune investigated a spike in red light tickets. The fact that the contract ended because Redflex Traffic Systems, the company who had the contract with the City of Chicago, was bribing a city official didn’t help either. It’s a mess. A federal lawsuit seeking $100 million in refunds was filed over the corruption, and city aldermen are investigating Redflex and the city because of the Tribune story.
This is why red light cameras should be taken down. Ideally the cameras are installed to help with traffic violations. At least that’s what citizens are told when by their government, right? Never mind that we shouldn’t be informed so much as asked, but that is another discussion for another time.
Are red light violations going down? Are drivers any safer? Probably not, but the city governments that use red light cameras are richer, I am sure. In this case, Chicago brought in $500 million in ticket fines. Why do we tolerate our government at the local and national levels abusing us?
This is more than a simple corruption case. It’s a breach of trust case. How can the government expect us to trust that it has our best interests in mind when something as simple as a red light camera contract is subject to being used to take advantage of the people?
I think it is high time that we the people stand up and tell our government that it’s stepping way past its boundaries. At the same time, WE need to start being more responsible about our freedoms or we soon won’t have any left. Government serves at our pleasure for our collective protection. Government needs to be reminded of that.
But what do you think?
My Final Thought:
We’ve all seen that driver, or parker. The one who takes up a space and a half or parks so close to you that there isn’t anyway to get into your car with out dinging the other one. Sometimes, it’s enough to make you scream, maybe even lash out—which I don not recommend or endorse. But in New York—Queens to be precise, one person has had enough: http://www.autoblog.com/2014/07/24/ny-graffiti-parking-vigilante-video/
I’m just going to leave this little gem here. And don’t be that park