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Negativity Bombardment…Have You Noticed?
Turn on the TV…what do you hear? Negative news. Politicians bickering. Drug companies pushing meds that don’t sound too good when you listen to the potential side effects. Ambulance-chasing lawyers. Programming that seeks to tear-down values. Criminal programs that desensitize us to some really bad behaviors and outcomes. Then take a look at the negative comments on FaceBook…frame after frame of negative postings and snarking--People getting caught up in negative, descending spirals. Then check out the ladies room in your workplace…what destructive gossip is happening there about the business, the company, the people, the whatever?
Guess what! It doesn’t have to be that way! Nope!…You don’t have to go there…you don’t have to join in! You can be the positive, proactive, person you want to be---even in the midst of huge negativity surrounding you. You can keep a smile on your face and a positive attitude. It is a choice!
There's some refuge in an image from Buddhist psychology...if you put a teaspoon of salt in a cup of water, it tastes very salty, but if you put the same spoon of salt in a lake, the water remains pure and clear. In the same way we can make our heart (and mind and day-to-day living) more spacious...creating a lake-size capacity...so that negativity/fears/confusion/injury/hurt can be held more readily within a spacious heart. We allow ourselves to become of greater capacity so that while the negative salt is there, it cannot affect/impact us.
Moving to a larger heart & mind is an “awareness process” that involves a way of understanding and responding to whatever is going on. It is a way of relating (of being in relation to) the big picture. Stephen Covey, in his book, The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People, shares that when we are “proactive” we develop the capacity to choose our response and he equates proactivity vs. reactivity to large-minded living vs. small minded living.
Here’s to YOU as you go forward being large-minded, with a lake-size capacity to deflect the negative while embracing the positive. Proactive, abundant mentality, encompassing and flexible are all descriptive words for large-minded living. (Yes! It is your choice.)
“It is not what happens to you in life, it is how you proactively respond to what is happening that matters most.”
Claire Knowles is a 2-time Amazon best-selling author, in-demand Speaker and Business Leadership Consultant, helping Leaders (especially women leaders) and their Teams become the most effective they can be at accomplishing their goals (together). www.ClaireEKnowles.com
About Buffalo Niagara Film Festival
The BNFF is the largest and most prestigious film festival in Western New York. It is a filmmaker's festival. A festival hosted by filmmakers and screenwriters for filmmakers and screenwriters...In a region that loves the arts and has produced many famous industry icons both behind the camera, on the screen, and abroad.
The BNFF is committed to providing opportunities to fellow filmmakers and all others in bringing cinematographic arts and other related entertainment products to Western New York through high-profile community events, talent, productions and films from around the country and the world.
We offer and bring unique events like no other, including the BNFF "Walk Of Fame" Trail Of The Stars, special events tailored around BNFF partner and renowned artist Philip Burke, and much more...
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Hanging With The Girls
Hanging With The Girls
In my young teens, a group of girls and I hung thick, as thieves. Ours was a friendship that bloomed in the early grades of elementary school, growing stronger every year. In our prime, or so "we thought" (I'm speaking about middle school-of course), we were "on top of the world"! It was the 80's! We had great music, high school dances, and neon colors everywhere . Even better, we had each other, to laugh with, confide in, count on, and well...just let loose with and have fun.
My one girlfriend, had this huge house, which seemed more like a castle to us, at the time. Because life was different then, and we were more responsible than today's "average teen", her parents used to leave us the whole house to ourselves most weekends, "if" we watched her younger brother.
This meant, time to dress up in her mom's pretty clothes, watch the latest movies, order pizza, go for a night swim in the built-in pool, hit the jacuzzi, then rock out ( like only girls can), in her brother's band's music room, and the night was not complete without story time. This was the part where the girls would plead with me to conjure up some very comical, or even scary story to entertain us all. Right off the cuff, I'd create a whimsical, deep, yet short masterpiece, full of surprises, always ending up with either somebody screaming in terror, or all of us laughing so hard we couldn't catch our breath.
Fast forward to our lives today: What happens now? After the marriages, the kids, separation, due to colleges, and then careers?? We've kept in touch over the years, getting together now and then, some of us more than others.
Cherry Blosssom Diaries - A Must Read This Summer!
DECIDING WHAT TO READ NEXT? - Cherry Blossom Diaries , an upbeat elegant read of a controversial subject. Somewhere between Shade's of Grey (E.L. James) and Etiquette (Emily Post) The kind of book I would want all my girlfriends to read! - Dori Montini-Kotzin