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Once Again…Repeat After Me: I’m Awesome! Yes, I am!
Recently there was a blog-post written by my colleague, Bonnie Marcus, entitled,
“Repeat After Me: I’m Awesome!” I’ve been contemplating her insightful post, and wish to expand on it. She noted (per a recent survey) how so many women lacked inner confidence—and that these surveyed women also shared they fully realize that they’d have progressed further in their careers (and, yes, in life-in-general), had they had more confidence in themselves! Can you relate to this?
Last month I asked (in my feature column with WNYWomen.com) “Is Your Inner Confidence Showing?” I shared some ways to carry yourself with confidence—Appear Confident, Think Confidently, and Practice Confidence.
Let’s now look much closer at you…yes, YOU! At YOU and at YOUR AWESOMENESS! Self-confidence starts with “what we tell ourselves”—consciously and in our subconscious messaging. What is your self-talk about? Is it lifting you up? Or is it pushing you down? We can have a huge, deliberate impact on this! So, start being more self-aware of your goodness, your accomplishments, and the many ways the wonderful you is showing up in the world. Start to reprogram….yes, to change the inner tape-recordings, the inner talk that is inhibiting you from showing your very best YOU! You are about to have a critical conversation with your inner-self-confidence maker!
How does this work? It works because if we change our self-talk, the old messages that run deep in our sub-conscious mind and that often inhibit our being the best we can be, are changed too. The sub-conscious holds old tapes, old messaging; yet it is reprogrammable--the old tapes can be replaced by new ones! It takes a dose of repetition, however, to get the subconscious mind to let go of the old and grasp the new. Sometimes when the old tape surfaces, we just have to stop---stop and say, “No…that’s not how it is; I’m really awesome; and I can do this; just watch this
confident me!” We have to keep reminding the subconscious that it is not in charge!
Try this! It is December….one more month in this calendar year. For the balance of this month, get yourself a journal—one that you dedicate to the sole purpose of recording your successes and your awesomeness. Label this dedicated journal, “My SUCCESS and AWSOMENESS Journal.” Each night before retiring to bed, begin to share with yourself the many, many ways that you’ve been awesome today! (Minimum three entries! Skies the maximum! And nothing negative can ever enter this journal!) List what accomplishments you’ve had? What are you feeling good about? How did you stand tall today? How did you communicate today? What was a success for you? What made you really smile? How did you show up in positive ways? What did you do really well? What was exciting for you? How did you show up and carry yourself confidently today? What made you feel really good about yourself? Record what comes to mind…succinctly…doesn’t have to be an essay! Next, read your day’s high points through several times; then allow yourself to smilingly sleep on it.
They say that it takes ~25 days to break habits and replace them with more improved ones. (Like making a commitment to exercise every morning! Once you get started, and stay with it, then it becomes a better part of you!) Just like breaking old bad habits, the old inner critic, the negative self-talker can be broken and replaced with strong self-confidence-building messaging too. Every day, little by little, you’re filling that subconscious recording device with stronger, more confident, successful messaging about YOU! You’re getting totally “in synch” so you can be the very best self you choose to be!
Once Again, Repeat after Me: I’m Awesome! Yes, I am!
Let's hear it For the Girls
As I was approaching the checkout line the other day at the grocery store, the cashier commented on my lipstick. She said, "Your lipstick looks really pretty! I wish I could wear makeup." She then went on to lower her head and put herself down, saying, "It probably wouldn't look good on me anyway." I looked her in the eyes, and said, "Ya know, you won't ever know unless you try. And, if you don't like it, try a different color...it comes off!" It astonishes me, how many women today are unhappy with their appearance, yet they do nothing about it.
I believe there is no better time in history, than today to be a woman. Go to just about any store, and you'll find a world of choices at your fingertips. Myriads of rich colors for your hair, with easy to follow directions; are merely a decision away. Deep cleansers, and gorgeous makeups are offered everywhere. Fitness centers are strategically located within driving, or walking distance for those who need to lose a few pounds, get fit, or simply stay in shape. My point, is that being a woman allows you the opportunity to make of yourself whatever you want. The resources which are so readily attainable even allow us to reinvent ourselves, should we wish to do so.
If you don't like your hair, cut it, color it, curl it, or straighten it. But, don't just sit there and stare at it. Invite a couple of your best friends, or sisters over, and have your own miraculous make-over. Having said that, I find it equally important to say that Inner beauty is just as detrimental; for outer beauty by itself, is only skin deep. ¡Andale! (Hurry!) Take your future by the horns and decide what YOU WANT TO DO with it. Complaining about it, certainly won't change it. Begin, by visualizing yourself as the person you have yet to become. Perhaps this means praying for direction, making a list of goals, including positive changes to be made. For others, this may also require compiling a junk trunk to be emptied right out of your lives. Next, go for it full speed ahead, leaving your procrastinating potential behind you. Once you look your best, you'll feel better about yourself, & there's no telling what you can do.
MIRACLE ON 34th STREET
LANCASTER OPERA HOUSE
MIRACLE ON 34th STREET
Thurs. Fri. and Sat. 7:30 pm, Sat. and Sun. 2:30 pm
Adapted by Mountain Community Theater
from the novel by Valentine Davies
Based upon the Twentieth Century Fox motion picture “Miracle on 34th Street”
Produced by JK PRODUCTIONS
LANCASTER, NY- A live staging of the perennial Christmas classic, MIRACLE ON 34th STREET plays the Lancaster Opera House December 6-15, with shows on Thursday, Fridays and Saturdays at 7:30pm and Saturdays and Sundays at 2:30 pm.
When a little old man named Kris Kringle takes over as the store Santa Claus at Macy’s in New York City, hard-nosed Events Director Doris has doubts about his claim to be the real Santa Claus. But her daughter sees something very, very special in Kris. Victimized by a conspiracy to fire him, a disheartened Kringle deliberately fails a mental examination, landing in Bellevue. Is he really Santa? Only true belief will tell!
Directed by Jerry Kelly, who also stars as Kris Kringle, the cast features Marta Roiz, Bob Wagner, Jamie Nablo, Autumn Cwick, Fred Gailey, Leanne Troutman, Joe Laspro, Irma Lewis, Ian Rowlins, Stacy Kowal, Christina Morrow, Nancy Kelley, Penny Striker, Ed Cwick, Dan Barone and Ernest Churchwell.
Tickets are $20(adults), $18(students & seniors), $13(Children 12 and under). The LOH Box Office is open Monday through Friday 9:30AM to 4:00 PM and one hour before curtain on show nights. The Lancaster Opera House is located on the second floor of the Lancaster Town Hall, 21 Central Avenue, Lancaster, New York 14086.Tickets can also be purchased by calling 716-683-1776 or on the web at www.LancOpera.org.
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Photo Caption: Jerry Kelly as Kris Kringle and Autumn Cwick as Susan Walker
FOREVER PLAID: PLAID TIDINGS
O’Connell & Company
in residence at The Park School of Buffalo
4625 Harlem Road
Snyder, NY 14226
O'Connell & Company proudly presents
FOREVER PLAID: PLAID TIDINGS
November 29 – December 22, 2013
“It’s a charming Christmas show you will always remember.
Plaid Tidings will keep you humming along in good cheer straight through the New Year.”