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What I like about Getting Older . . .
I never thought about this question until recently; what do I like about getting older? Is it the fact that I feel more grounded, or centered? Has my relationships with others changed me over the years? Do I recognize the woman I was ten, twenty or thirty years ago?
So what IS the best way to store antique clothing and textiles?
In a nutshell, store items laid out flat, with as few folds as is possible, wrapped and padded with non-buffered acid free tissue paper, then placed into an acid-free cardboard box that is kept in neutral climate conditions.
That is the “best” way, but most of us can’t afford or don’t have the kind of space that will allow for flat storage in acid free wrap and containers and kept in the living area of your home.
In my last article we talked about storage in plastic bags and cedar chests, so of course this is one option if done with the proper care and precautions. If you don’t have a cedar chest or you want better protection, here are some easy things you can do:
What?......Am I Invisible?
To be invisible means you are not visible, unperceived, not noticed, blended into the woodwork. Have you ever felt that way? Do you understand that sense of “not having an identity that seems to matter?”
A woman whom I’d met three years prior was in the crowd at a networking event in St. Petersburg, Florida. The event was tagged as “Branding Yourself” and it was a tremendously-informative evening—built around the notion that each one of us women, with the will to do so, can reinvent oneself—to reinvent your life at 30, 40, 50, 60, 70, or even higher up the birthday ladder! A significant, very moving and heart-lifting situation happened that evening.
This woman, whom I’ll call Kay, stood up during the Q&A portion of the evening, and though unplanned, she walked to the front of the room and poignantly shared her quick story:
One year prior she had been to a similar event and realized that she was invisible--no one noticed her, she felt bland, no one seemed interested in her work or what she had to say. People with whom she’d served on community activities with did not have her “top of mind”---she felt neglected, unnoticed, a “nothing.” And she asked herself,
“Why?” ---“Why was she so invisible to people?”---“What had happened to her once-perceivable, personal brand?”---“Where did her personal appeal go?”
That night, she set up meeting times with 5 acquaintances asking them to give her a solid dose of reality….to be a sounding board for what was going on! And what would she need to do to become “visible” again? She shared that the truth hurt. She’d become less than what she had been; she had grown stale, falling into a comfort trap. She’d become rigid in her ways. She learned that she had to “shake it up.” And she did. For 14 months she went on a “create-a-new-me” journey. She changed jobs---finding one that she loved--one where she was respected for her skills. She had a makeover, but not until she lost 35 pounds. She lightened her hair-color. She re-discovered herself and what was meaningful. She honed her elevator pitch. She joined an organization where she could voluntarily leverage what her years of experience had brought her. She accelerated…toward new dreams. Physically, she “modernized”---modern haircut, new make-up, chic clothes that fit her “now-in-shape” frame. She learned to dance to the new music of today. She learned to say, “yes”… and stopped saying “no” to opportunities to grow in new ways. She said that she learned that she had to undergo a massive overhaul, but felt that if she wanted to be “visible”, she needed to “get with it” And she did. She has a new brand, a newly-reinvented self.
Not only did she receive a round of applause, but clearly, a standing ovation from the crowd of women at the event. She made herself wonderfully visible.
You can too! There will never be a perfect time to reinvent oneself. Just this day---the day you start your journey---never again the invisible woman!
Claire Knowles is a Speaker, Consultant and 2-time Best-Selling Author. To see
more of her work, go to www.ClaireEKnowles.com
RATE YOUR DATE
Often times, one or both individuals in a dating relationship find themselves wondering where the relationship is heading. Questions swarm their minds like bees on pollen. They wonder if, why, or how things will proceed. I’ve got a little something to say on the subject, for what it’s worth.
Do you find yourselves saying, "What do you want to do.......? I don’t know.... What do you want to do.......?(pregnant pause -wherever that phrase even came from???)". Stay away from this type of conversation; it implies, & can lead to boredom. Quickly get off the phone, allowing time for you, or your mate to reconvene with an actual plan of action.
Do you sit around at each other’s houses and do nothing? Avoid this, at all cost. Again, try getting together for a purpose. Doing nothing is usually not fun. Your mate can begin to associate you with boredom. When you date, let it be to go to dinner, see a movie, go dancing, visit friends, bowling, etc. This way, the fun you had together will be attached to the two of you spending time together. You’ll both be left wanting more.
Take a toll on what’s coming out of your date’s mouth, in reference to you. Are they usually building you up, or tearing you down? If they are frequently criticizing you, and pointing out your flaws, it will only get worse the longer you’re together. A healthy partnership should be founded on mutual respect, and hopefully love & affection. Nobody is more aware of your flaws than you. The last thing you need is to have the one you love constantly reminding you of them, especially in public. That is something that should never be tolerated. (Drop that dead weight by the curb, and leave it there.)
Finally, don’t deceive yourself into thinking that somebody who doesn’t want to marry, or have kids will suddenly change their view just for you. It is very unlikely! If they say they don’t want to up front, BELIEVE THEM! They have nothing to gain from making it up. While this is not always the case, it is my belief that after a few months of dating, a person knows whether this is the one they want to marry, or not. You shouldn’t have to wait for years to for them to figure out "if" they love you, or "if" you are the one they want to spend the rest of their lives with. You deserve better!
Think about it......! If you are shopping for clothes, shoes, jewelry, a car, or a home, you usually know immediately if you "love something, & have to have it". You don’t have to revisit it 20, 30, or a hundred times to figure it out. If you have to talk yourself into it, it’s probably not worth the investment. Get the picture? If you’re not on the same page, it’s time to exit the stage!
Your Relationship With Spirit
I think about my mom every single day since she passed; sometimes it is with a smile because her spirit is still with me, strongly holding me when I need it, and sometimes it is with a tear, suddenly remembering she is gone. But mom had a strong spirit when she was alive, so she is still here to comfort me and others who still need her.
Mom loved the simple things in life. In the summer time she would sweep the driveway, and in the winter, she sat with her crocheting; simple stitches that made beautiful blankets.
Spirit is everywhere
It flows through and around everyone you meet. From the casual conversation you have with someone on the street to the time spent with family, reminiscing on past times that were good and bad.
When you reminisce, uplift your soul by the good, bad and ugly times of life because they are just there in the past and memories change a bit as you get older.
And changing memories can be a good thing because just like a tree, you stand alone at the end of life. Your strength becomes your spirit, not how physically strong or mentally strong you were; just your spirit is left to be near others who are living.
Strengthen your spirit now
Begin to find strength in yourself through nature. Take those walks that you talk about taking, and spend time with the birds, the breezes and the wonders of the world.
My spirit soars when I read inspiring literature. Find some smiles in reading some things that inspire and motivate you toward becoming more centered and balanced in your life.
As time passes, you begin to get closer to spiritual things. Remembering the way things were becomes a gift to talk about. The happy thoughts prevail over the sad. Things become clearer, and you begin to see each present moment as a gift in time, because each day becomes more special than the day before. Each moment deserves gratitude, as your days harmoniously pass along.